Wise people own their own problems and listen to wisdom to get help to become better and wiser. Fools try to put their problems on you so you’ll own their problem. Wise love sets boundaries to insure that the real owner of the problem has to deal with the problem. The Bible teaches us to be responsible TO others to provide appropriate help while remembering that we are responsible FOR ourselves. Love helps another person with a burden that’s too heavy for them to bear. But it doesn’t try to take on the daily responsibilities of life or what the Bible calls the “load.” It is all about proper ownership. Who owns the problem? Wise love will set a boundary while still loving a foolish person.